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I became a more frugal person both out of necessity and with my daughter’s future in mind. When she was born last year, I wanted to be a stay at home mom. Doing so meant cutting our household income down drastically. About 6 months after she was born, my husband received a pay cut that really packed a punch. It hurt us and it’s still hurting us today.
Most days I try not to think about it. I go about my life avoiding the topic of finances and money. But about once a week, it’s brought up. Maybe our kitchen cabinets are empty and I need to go grocery shopping, there might be a bill due that we don’t know how to pay, or maybe I decide it’s been too long since I went over our budget and made sure it was up to date and accurate.
Whatever the reason, once a week I start thinking about how crappy things are right now. How my husband makes $600-800 a month less now than he did at the beginning of the year. How Christmas is just around the corner and I have no clue how we’ll be able to buy anything at all for each other. I start thinking about how we are struggling and I get so angry. I’ll find myself daydreaming about our life before my daughter was born, how money was never an issue. Find myself wishing I could go back in time.
Those days suck. They’re the worst.
Those are the days when I get so mad and so upset about our current financial situation that all I want to do is sit down with a bottle of booze and give up on the budget. Give up on living a frugal life. I think the fact that I’m frugal out of necessity is really what makes me the most upset.
I know I’m not alone here. I know that you have those same cruddy days that I do. Those days when you want to buy a new blouse, but the budget just doesn’t allow for it. The days when you’re dog tired and want to get take-out for dinner, except that isn’t an option right now.
We can’t give up, though! Giving up is unacceptable.
Because we are doing this for our future. For our spouse’s future. For our children’s futures. The future of you and your family is dependent on you sticking to your budget, making ends meet, and staying as frugal as possible.
When I started writing this, I considered making a list of all the different things you can do to fight frugality fatigue. From not setting your goals too high to having thrifty friends; I had a long list of things that can help you stick to your frugal lifestyle.
I realized, though, that all those motivators pale in comparison to knowing you are setting yourself up for a better future. Every dime you save, every penny you pinch. It’s all contributing to a richer future for you and those you love.
You’re teaching your children the value of money, that it really doesn’t grow on trees. You’re teaching them to be better, thriftier adults and helping them realize instant gratification isn’t necessary. Good things come to those who wait.
You’re making sure that you and your spouse won’t wake up one day 30 years from now realizing you can’t retire and enjoy your senior years together. You’re making sure you have the money to live the back half of your life comfortably.
Heck, even Fido is going to benefit! He may be young and spry today, but in a few short years that’s all going to change. Our pets age so much faster than us and it won’t be long before signs of old age start popping up. It’s a sad reality for everyone, animal and human alike, but at least you’ll know you will be able to afford to keep him comfortable towards the end.
There are a ton of things you can do to combat the desire to give up on the frugal life you are living. The most important advice I can share with you: