Is Technology Destroying Today’s Youth? I Think So.

There's a reason my daughter isn't allowed to watch cartoons and won't be using a computer or tablet anytime soon.

It seems like every time family comes to visit us or we go to visit them, a TV ends up being turned on in an attempt to occupy my daughter’s attention.  And every time this happens, I tell the TV turner on-er that it isn’t going to work.  My daughter isn’t going to watch cartoons.

It’s almost as if people assume I don’t know my own child and scoff at what I just said.  What kid doesn’t like TV?

Bee.
Bee doesn’t like TV.

Bee doesn’t watch cartoons.

Because I don’t let her.

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She gets to watch the news on weekend mornings with her dad.  On weekdays the TV doesn’t get turned on until around 4pm when Family Feud comes on because Hubby and I both like to watch that show.

Family Feud is followed by the local news.  We watch that, too.  Then it’s usually time to start getting Bee ready for bed.

Occasionally, while passing through channels, Hubby or I might land on a cartoon and leave it on for a couple minutes, waiting to see Bee’s reaction.

Normally she’ll watch it for a few seconds, then return to whatever it was she had been doing.

She isn’t impressed by Cat in the Hat, Mickey Mouse, Sesame Street or Curious George.

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To the majority of people reading this, I’m sure I sound like a crazy, mean parent lady.  Depriving my child of cartoons… what kind of mom does that?

This kind!  Here’s why:

  • The liberal, PC agenda

    Have you ever sat down and watched a modern cartoon?  They’re all doing the same thing: pushing a liberal, politically correct agenda down your child’s throat.

    If you’re okay with that, great, but I’m not.  If anyone is going to brainwash my 1 year old, it’s going to be me or her father.  Not some cartoon that pushes her to believe in things we don’t.

    According to cartoons, if a “bully” is picking on you, it’s your duty to find the nearest adult and taddle on him rather than stand up for yourself.

    According to cartoons, we all need to be accepting of one another.  Rather than dislike that annoying, weird kid that lives down the street, our children are being taught that those feelings aren’t okay to have.

    A whole bunch of BS if you ask me.

  • Technology is evil

    Do I sound crazy yet?

    I don’t actually believe anything is “evil”, but sometimes I look around and can’t help but think that technology does more harm than good.

    Don’t get me wrong, I’ll take my electric refrigerator over a cellar any day!  And I don’t know what I’d do without my computer.  That being said, I still don’t think kids need to be glued to a screen all day.

    I have a 5 year old niece who starts kindergarten next week.  Now, when I think of kindergarten, I remember what it was like when I was a kid.  Story books, paper, crayons… little kid stuff.

    My niece is expected to bring headphones to school because kindergartners are using iPods, iPads and computers!  Seriously… WTF?  Why does a 5 year old need to be using mp3 players, computers and tablets?

  • Those 3 year olds who know how to use a computer better than their parents piss me off

    Every time I see this, all I think is “you’re a shitty parent”.

    It’s true.  And I’m not sorry for saying it.  If you’re offended, then you’re probably one of those shitty parents.

    I’m not going to hand my child a tablet or mp3 player when I need a break.  I’m not going to use the TV or computer as a babysitter.  That’s called half-assed parenting and I’m not going to do it.

    I totally understand that sometimes all you want is a break from your 3 year old.  And I hate to sound like a dick again, but  you probably should have considered that before you decided to have a child.

  • There are better things she could spend her time doing

    Bee has toys, she has books, she has the dogs, she has a yard, she has her dad and she has me.  All things that can keep her entertained.  There’s not a single reason she needs to spend any time watching cartoons when she has all those other things!

    Sure, it’d be really nice to turn the TV on and let her watch cartoons in the living room while she eats her breakfast so I can get some work done around the house.  And yeah, I struggle to get things done sometimes because she is constantly underfoot and always wanting to help me.  But ya know what?  Every time she watches me sweep and every time she tries to help me scrub the floors, she’s learning.  Learning from the real world, from real life, and not from some stupid animated TV show.

    The older she gets, the more she will be able to see and do.  The more the world will teach her lessons.  Lessons she could never possibly learn from a tablet or computer screen.

 

Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one who remembers the days before computers.  Back when people had to *gasp* read a book if they wanted to learn something.  Back before the days of Googling everything.  Once upon a time when we used paper dictionaries and thesauruses… back in the good ol’ days.

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As hard as it might be to remember, there was a time before handheld internet access existed.  Hell, there was a time when the internet didn’t exist at all!  And ya know what?

People were SMARTER.

And that is why you’ll never see my daughter with her face glued to a screen.

I know I can’t deny her access to technology for her entire life, but I can guarantee you that when she’s 5 she won’t be using a tablet and she won’t have her own smart phone at the age of 10.

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There's a reason my daughter isn't allowed to watch cartoons and won't be using a computer or tablet anytime soon.

25 thoughts on “Is Technology Destroying Today’s Youth? I Think So.

  • August 19 at 4:32 am
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    Although I somewhat agree unfortunately the greatest destroyer of today’s youth are parents. We live in an era where we blame everything other than whats in front of us. An ipad doesn’t raise a child. We need to take responsibility and start accepting that its the human that turns the tv on.

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    • August 19 at 4:55 am
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      Hey Kate, thanks for stopping by!

      I agree with you, hence the “half-assed parenting” comment I made. But it seems we live in a society where it isn’t just the parents who are to blame. Most kids in America attend public school, which is, of course, the parent’s choice. You can home school, send your kid to boarding school, or pay a charter/private school to teach your child. But the majority of American parents choose the public school option, where teachers give 5 year olds tablets and mp3 players. Where they get to stare at a computer screen rather than a book.

      Now that I know that the schools are handing out unnecessary electronic devices to children at such a young age, I’m definitely going to spend some time looking into alternative ways to educate Bee!

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  • August 20 at 2:11 am
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    We do not own a TV due to being raised that way and the awful influence it is. However I do allow my children to watch movies via Netflix. They generally ask permission to have the ipad. Do they watch too much? Quite probably. They also play outdoors too and in the woods. Perhaps some parents need to provide more direction. Balance.

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    • August 20 at 3:14 am
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      That’s great to hear, Charlotte! Sadly, I know way too many parents who would rather their kids sat in front of the TV than go outside. I suppose it’s easier and more convenient if the child is babysat by the TV than running around outside, getting dirty and scratched up. But those parents are doing their kids such a disservice!

      Thanks for visiting!

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  • August 22 at 3:07 pm
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    As a kid who wasn’t allowed to watch TV growing up (unless it was Star Trek with my parent’s supervision), TV isn’t a form of entertainment for me now. My friends who binge watch Netflix for 6 hours straight, I’m just like “how can you do that?” I would go crazy sitting still for that long!

    That being said, I think the world is moving in a technologic direction. My friend’s first grader has his own iPad, issued by the school, with all his lessons. If she refused to let him use that, he would be considerably set back with people of his own age. Kids need to be able to excel at technology to stay competitive for when they someday want to get a job etc. It’s all about finding a good balance!

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    • August 22 at 4:47 pm
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      I’m not going to lie, I think elementary school is much too young to use computers and tablets as the main form of education. It’s making me seriously consider homeschooling my daughter. I’m all for them knowing how to use computers, tablets and all the other technology… just at what I would consider to be a more age appropriate time. And, in my opinion, that time isn’t until they reach middle school. I don’t think I used a computer at all until I was in 5th grade and somehow I’ve managed just fine. I understand that technology plays a larger role in our lives today than they did back then, and I know it will be used more and more as time progresses, but I still don’t think using that much technology in elementary school is necessary.

      Thanks for stopping by, Zoom!

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  • August 22 at 4:44 pm
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    We recently cut my four year old son off from the iPad cold turkey. He doesn’t even ask about it anymore, and the transformation in his play, demeanor, attention span, and behavior has been nothing short of miraculous! I can’t imagine ever going back.

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    • August 24 at 2:04 pm
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      That’s great, Megan! I’m glad to hear you have seen such great results simply by removing the iPad from his day-to-day life!

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  • August 22 at 5:34 pm
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    I agree. And, I don’t.
    There were a lot of things my daughter learned from TV that I certainly didn’t teach her. I always had something educational playing for her when I turned it on.
    I’ll agree TOO MUCH TV is a waste of a child’s mind and day. Some actually might fill in gaps for a parent. When my daughter was younger, we would both watch Signing Time videos and I’d let her watch them in the car driving around town. And, she was signing by the time she was 6 mo old.
    Once I got pregnant with baby #2, I was too exhausted to provide as much direction in her life, so there were plenty of times I let electronics babysit her. Now, I just wish my boy would watch some TV to entertain himself for 10 minutes.
    Everything in moderation, I say.

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    • August 22 at 8:19 pm
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      I greatly disagree with allowing such a young child to watch TV. 6 months old? Experts don’t recommend it until a child is 2 years old. I thought 1 year olds watching TV was bad…

      Placing an infant in front of a TV, be it in the car or at home, is something I can’t fathom doing. If I want my daughter to learn to sign, I’ll teach her myself. The TV isn’t necessary.

      That being said, it isn’t my place to tell you how to parent. That works for you, which is great, but it definitely wouldn’t work for me.

      Thanks for reading, Ivy!

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  • August 23 at 6:04 pm
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    WOWZA! I must be the worst shittiest parent ever then! I have 5 kids and I am an ATTACHED parent. TV and electronics has never been my sitter or break giver ever. Neither do I decide for my children to watch the news over cartoons and educational apps and programs? WTH? One of my boys uses electronics quite often, he has arthritis, so too much physical activity is actually BAD for him, he also uses electronics to communicate and “write” for him. His IQ BTW is over 140. WOW but wow, I am the most shittiest parent to allow my kids to use technology huh? I have 2 others who are aspie/autistic, technology WHEN USED PROPERLY is an amazing resource for children. Before telling parents they are shitty please do look at what you do first and always think about WHY technology is used. Not all the time it is used as a sitter. BTW, come to think of it, when I am cooking, so my child doesn’t get burnt technology comes in pretty handy! Also my BFF has a son who is complete deaf, has a Cochlear Implant and he uses lots of technology, is she a shitty parent too? Geez.

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    • September 15 at 3:53 pm
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      Marilyn, I didn’t see this comment until now. For whatever reason it was hanging out in my spam file.

      First, I’d like to say thanks for reading! It’s really great to see that what I said had such a strong impact on you.

      I’m sorry to hear about your children’s disabilities. That really is sad. Anytime a child is unable to play and have fun taking part in physical activities like most kids due to an illness is a shame.

      I suppose I should have been a little more clear: I was speaking of younger children, babies and toddlers specifically, regarding technology and how I feel they shouldn’t be attached to a screen for any extended period of time. If your disabled children fall into that age range, then my opinion stands. I believe you are doing a disservice to your young children, regardless of disabilities.

      I understand that technology is the future and today’s youth needs to know how to use it. I see little need for them to learn such things prior to middle school, though, and especially before entering elementary school.

      I’m strongly considering homeschooling my now 1 year old daughter. If that is the route her father and I choose to go, we have already agreed that we will not be putting her in front of a TV, computer, tablet or anything like that for educational purposes prior to 6th grade. There is no need for my healthy child to be taught by electronics at that age. That’s not how 20 and 30-somethings were educated in elementary school (aside from the educational video) and there is no need for the elementary school students of today be taught that way.

      However, we have discussed enrolling her in an online school once she reaches 6th grade. If we do that, she would be doing her schooling on a computer. That is years away and I suppose it’s possible that my opinion may change by the time we get to that point, but right now we plan on keeping her access to technology limited when she isn’t working on her school work. I believe extended access to video games, TV, tablets and all that stuff is not beneficial for anyone, including a teenager. You are welcome to be offended by what I’ve said, but that’s my opinion.

      So glad you stopped by!

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  • September 1 at 5:45 am
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    You have very valid points–although, I wouldn’t say technology is evil (as we are all here) I do agree that the cartoons nowadays are ‘dumb’ but there are still educational cartoons that help children and we now even have the chance to share the good shows we enjoyed from the past. 🙂 I don’t watch a lot of TV myself–I don’t even have cable but it’s a nice way to unwind and not think sometimes 🙂

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    • September 1 at 3:53 pm
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      I don’t have cable either, Katrina. Just an antenna. I just can’t rationalize spending money on it.

      Being able to show her the “old school” cartoons when she reaches an older age is something I’m excited about. I have a feeling it won’t be an everyday thing, though.

      Thanks for reading!

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  • September 1 at 5:56 pm
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    I agree with Katrina, simply put everything has an advantage and disadvantages, anyway nice and post

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  • September 1 at 8:52 pm
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    Technology could be dangerous if we depend so much on it everyday. There are a lot of things or activities children could do which could enhance their physical, mental and social skills not just glued on LCDs and monitors.

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  • September 2 at 1:52 am
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    Wow, I always appreciate people that speak their mind loud and clear. I do agree that TV is one of the most useless things we have. The time spent lazying on the couch could be used so much more productive and I definitely wouldn’t want my future child to become a TV, Ipad or computer zombie. My brother is the best example. Since he was a child, he has always been sitting on his computer after school or through his whole vacations. His friends would come over and sit in his room by themselves while he sits in the computer in the common area. What is happening to our future?

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    • September 2 at 3:58 am
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      Totally understand where you’re coming from regarding your brother. My younger sister is the same way. She & her boyfriend even spend their Saturday nights at an adult-ish arcade. They live in a small town and I was shocked that such a place existed in that town!

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  • September 5 at 11:36 am
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    You’re right in the cartoon aspect, they also teach them that being soft is weak and the bad boys get the good things.. they teach them that being badass is cool

    When I give birth, i will surely take your words into consideration

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    • September 9 at 7:09 pm
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      Honestly, I don’t see anything wrong with teaching them that being soft is weak. It’s those who feel it’s okay to be soft that have created this “I’m Being Bullied” movement. I’m all for raising children to be tough, to stick up for themselves, to defend themselves. Kids should be taught to be in control of their feelings & emotions, they shouldn’t allow other people to effect how they feel or who they are. If they can’t stick up for themselves, if they can’t defend themselves, if they believe in “bullies”, if they can’t control their emotions and if they let other people dictate who they are or how they feel, well then they are weak (or soft, whichever verbiage you prefer).

      And as far as the badass thing goes, I don’t know what cartoons you’re watching (maybe those directed towards older kids?), but the ones I see on PBS & Disney are the complete opposite.

      Thanks so much for stopping by, Funke!

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  • September 22 at 4:49 am
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    I’d have to say I agree with you to a point. I disagree with electronic attachment. Seeing kids with headphones on or playing handheld games while they’re at restaurants or stores drives me nuts. And when I went out to lunch with a good friend who handed her 1 year old her iPhone to play with immediately after we sat down, I couldn’t believe it.
    That being said, my son (16 months) does watch TV. I never put it on and just sit him in front of it, though; it’s not a babysitter. Unlike some parents today, I actually believe in watching my child. For the most part, he doesn’t pay a whole lot of attention to it, but he loves Elmo, and he loves music. I can’t say that I agree that any and all TV and electronics are evil. He enjoys watching a little Elmo here and there and I’ll put YouTube music videos on via our Chromecast and he’ll dance away. If I notice it’s something he’s getting a little too entranced in, then I generally don’t view that particular video too much.
    The rest of the time, and even when it’s on, we play and talk, he snuggles the dogs, we build and color. To be honest, if we removed the TV from the house, I think the only thing he’d notice is that the entertainment center was missing and he couldn’t open and close the doors and drawers all day. So I don’t believe TV is inherently bad. I think it’s more the way you use it. It’s not a substitute for human interaction, supervision, or teaching. But it can be a fun activity in short doses.
    I should point out that my son is very smart and incredibly physical, and while I believe the “no TV until he’s 2” thing for a while, I decided that that rule was probably made with people in mind like what I’ve mentioned here-not for the occasional watcher. They just don’t want kids planted in front of them like little zombies all day because sure, that will deteriorate their learning, social skills, physical abilities and attention span.

    Regardless, kudos to you for being able to raise your daughter without a TV. It’s definitely something a lot of parents struggle with or change their minds about after their kids are born. We live in a different world than when we were kids. We face the problem of electronics and social media having infiltrated every part of our lives. Best of luck in keeping her on the path as she gets older. I’m sure it’ll only get more difficult as they enter their teen years!

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  • September 22 at 2:02 pm
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    That’s one thing I also do… music is playing in our house almost all day. Not YouTube, but Pandora, Spotify or the good old radio (depending on what room we are in and what we are doing).

    I commend you for being a better parent than most and not using the TV as a babysitter. Some people might say I’m probably taking things a little extreme by keeping her away from the TV as much as I am, but that’s okay. Most people think a lot of the things I do are extreme!

    Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and leave such a great comment, Kira!

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  • January 6 at 12:14 pm
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    You are very passionate about this issue. I think that’s cool! I agree with the cause, less screen time, I also think technology is the future and so with that there needs to be balance. As moms I feel strongly we should support each other in our personal journey, as each family, home, and mama has different needs. No TV is not a babysitter, but many from my generation grew up watching TV and believe we all turned out fine. Instead of bashing and shaming other mommies, we should educate them with facts and offer our support. Maybe that mom is going through pp depression, maybe she doesn’t have other mom friends to help her out, consider being a light in her tribe instead of making them feel even worse about their mothering skills. Kids also pick up on negativity, and will learn to judge others if that’s what we show them. My goal this year is to make 2017 a year of love. Turning negatives into positives is something I feel could really help us all get along and be better Moms.

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  • January 26 at 6:56 pm
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    I just taught mine to spot the liberal agenda and they are turning out well. When my daughter was about 8 she went to a movie with a friend and when I asked her how it was she said, “Okay, but it was a real tree-hugger movie!” Haha

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