I Hope My Daughter Doesn’t Grow Up to Be Fat

Obesity is an epidemic in America and I hope my daughter doesn’t end up like so many other people in our country.

I hope she doesn’t grow up to be fat.

Currently, the average American woman is 5’4″ and wears a size 16 in clothing.

We all know clothing sizes vary a bit from one company to another. A woman who wears a size 4 in one brand may be a 2 or a 6 in another.

Lane Bryant’s clothing chart lists a size 16 as fitting a woman with a 38-inch waist.

Medical professionals recommend that your waist measure no more than half your height. This means a healthy 5’4″ woman’s waist should measure no more than 32-inches. Any person whose waist measures larger than their height is considered “overfat”.

Weight gain has tried to plague me on and off throughout my life.  Currently, my waist measures about one and a half inches larger than it should.

I’m overfat or, as I prefer to say, just plain fat.

Am I morbidly obese? No. But, I’m also not a healthy size.

I’ve spent a lot of time over the past couple months trying to decide how I should look at this situation.

Do I join all the other fat people in America who are seemingly proud of being fat and teach this mindset to my daughter? Or do I change my lifestyle, return to a healthy size, and teach my daughter the importance of not being a fat person?

It’s probably obvious by the title of this post that I chose the latter option.

I know how I work. I know how my mind operates (most of the time) and what motivates me.

I’m not good at doing things for me. My desire to lose the excess weight I’m carrying isn’t enough of a motivator for me to actually make changes in my life. I don’t like change. It isn’t any fun.

What does motivate me is my daughter. The desire to teach her what it means to live a healthy lifestyle motivates me. I’m also motivated by the desire to teach her that she shouldn’t be okay with, let alone proud of, being fat. She should strive to be in the best physical shape she can be in, something I’ve slacked on doing the last couple of years.

Sure, I want her to love herself and her body, but I don’t want her to believe that mediocrity is okay. I want her to know that assuming she has no medical conditions, there’s no reason she should be overweight.

Why would I want to raise her this way? Why do I plan to teach her being fat isn’t okay? What are my reasons for hoping she will never be a fat person? Read on:

Being fat is unhealthy

I get so tired of hearing people say “I may be overweight, but I’m still healthy”.

Yeah, sure Glenda. You might be healthy now, but that doesn’t mean that the excess fat you’re waddling around with isn’t going to have an impact on your health later in life.

This is a fact nobody can actually argue, no matter how hard they might try:

Being overweight is a health risk.

Don’t believe me? There are tons of resources out there proving it. Just use Google. Here, I’ll help you a little:

There’s this.

And this.

Another article.

Oh, and look here.

I honestly can’t believe that people are teaching their kids that it’s okay to be fat. That there’s nothing wrong with it and we should all love our fat-selves.

Yeah, let’s just accept the idea of developing type-2 diabetes or high blood pressure in the future. Let’s love ourselves when we’re fat, because who doesn’t love an increased chance of heart disease or stroke?

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Being fat isn’t pretty


There are obese people who have pretty faces, sure. And there are some people out there who are called “chubby chasers”. But, generally speaking, oversized people are hard on the eyes.

It’s my body, it’s none of their business! If they don’t like how I look, they don’t have to look at me!

Yeah, sure, okay. How about you just don’t go out in public if you’re so bothered by the opinion of a stranger? Or, better yet, change how you look. Lose the excess fat that’s so unappealing to other people.

People who think that way are just like the people who tattoo their face and then can’t understand why they are unable to find a decent job.

What you look like reflects who you are. I don’t want my daughter thinking that the world should “accept her for who she is” if the person she looks like happens to look like a pathetic excuse for a human.

You want people to accept you and not be so quick to assume you’re a pathetic excuse for a human? Dress respectfully, keep the tattoos hidden and the piercings off your face, and don’t give people a reason to think you’re lazy and have horrible self-control by being overweight.

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A fat person is a weak person

Tapping into the last thing I said, being fat is an obvious sign that you’re either weak or you, like, purposely gained all that weight so you could act like a crazy bitch when people make comments about your weight.

Most people don’t plan to become overweight, though, so I’m guessing the current fat person reading this is the former.

Assuming you’re free from medical issues that cause you to gain weight and prevent you from losing weight, being overweight means you aren’t strong enough to find a diet and exercise plan that works for you and stick with it. It means you can’t say no to the cookies or cake and you can’t say yes to participating in enough physical activity to burn the calories you just put into your body when you ate the cookies and cake.

I don’t want my daughter to be weak. I don’t want her to be the kind of person who decides eating crap food and being sedentary is how she’s going to live her life. Not when eating healthy and being active is better for her health.

Yeah, a Snickers bar tastes way better than carrots. And I know that exercising isn’t fun (in the beginning). That doesn’t mean my daughter should think it’s okay to take the easy route. The route that leads to things like heart disease and diabetes.

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People are mean… but they’re right

I don’t want her to get picked on for her weight.

Yeah, I get it. People shouldn’t bully other people. We need to be nice to everyone. Blah, blah, blah.

In reality, some people will always be mean. There’s no changing that.

Although bullying people and being mean is, well, mean, sometimes these mean people are right.

If someone points out how gross you look in an outfit because you do look gross in an outfit because you’re fat, I don’t really think that counts as fat shaming.

Here’s something I’ve never understood: Why is it okay for someone to point out how short I am, but it isn’t okay for me to point out how fat someone is?

It’s a BS double standard. Comments like those are simple observations, whether you take them offensively or not is your choice.

If you feel like someone commenting on your size is offensive, change your size. If you want to be told you look great, make an actual effort to look great.

Unwilling to earn the positive attention of other people? Then shut up and accept that not everyone is going to lie to you.

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I don’t want her to settle for a mediocre version of herself

Because that’s what being fat is. Mediocrity.

Again, barring any health issues, allowing yourself to become overweight is allowing your body to be a low-quality version of what it could and should be.

It doesn’t matter what part of her life we’re talking about, she should never settle for mediocrity. I believe she should want to push herself to be the best she can possibly be in all aspects of her life, not just in matters of weight.

What are your hopes for your daughter? Does her future size matter to you? Why or why not?

3 thoughts on “I Hope My Daughter Doesn’t Grow Up to Be Fat

  • May 19 at 4:59 pm

    Wow. I sincerely hope your daughter is kinder than you.

  • May 19 at 6:55 pm

    Soooo if she gets fat are you going to have less love for her?? Because apparently by your statement fat people aren’t worthy of love! You love a person, not the size of them! And some people can eat as healthy as possible and still be overweight! You definitely could have worded your title better! Js

  • October 23 at 3:16 pm

    Wow I love your honesty here!

    Coming from someone that has been on the opposite side of the spectrum, i understand where your coming from about the double standard. I had multiple individuals remark about how skinny I was. It was very bothersome and down right annoying. I was never going up to heavy people and being like “hey why can’t you just lose the weight”.

    I as well have a daughter and feel the same way. My hope is to provide her with the right physical and mental tools to guide her away from unhealthy weight gain throughout her lifetime.


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