Leave the Brainwashing to Me, Please

Before my daughter was born, I honestly wasn’t sure what kind of schooling experience my future child would have.

My mom chose to homeschool me until I was 15 years old. At 15 I began attending my local community college.

When trying to see the flaws in my homeschooled life, I think about how I’d struggled to properly interact with my peers during my teen years.

Was I just a weird kid? Or was it because I didn’t spend much time with people my own age?

Although I considered a lack of socialization to be a possible downside to homeschooling, I also knew that if I were to homeschool my kid, I could always do things differently.

I looked at a couple girls I knew who were homeschooled. These young ladies interacted well with their peers. It was as if being around people their own age was nothing new to them.

Their mother had them involved in so many activities outside of the home! Sometimes I wondered how they found time to study!

Each girl took classes learning a foreign language, with the older of the two already learning her third language.

Both girls took a dance class and were learning an instrument.

They were in sports and their mother took advantage of every free or relatively inexpensive kids activity her community had to offer.

These kids were different from most of their peers in the sense that they were a genuine joy to be around.

Respectful, kind, courteous, obedient. They spoke to adults as if they were well-rounded adults themselves.

Due to their activity with kids their own age, they were just as easily able to talk to and play with their peers.

I always thought to myself If I ever choose to homeschool, I want to do it the way this mom did.

I considered the idea of public school and private school (if I could ever, one day, afford private school).

My child attending public school seemed unfathomable.

I hated the idea of throwing my kid into the public school system. I hear moms blame the public schools for their child’s behavioral issues all the time.

She wasn’t like this until she started going to school.”

Not only that, finding out even Kindergartners in my state use computers and iPads during their now mandatory full day of school really bothered me. I found out about this a couple years ago when my niece started Kindergarten and to this day I still can’t wrap my mind around why such things are necessary for 5-year-olds.

Although I’m not a fan of the price, private schools have always been more appealing to me than public schools. My biggest complaint is that I am raising my daughter to be Agnostic and private schools tend to be based on religion.

Don’t get me wrong, I want my daughter to learn about religion and one day form her own opinion, but I definitely don’t want it happening until she’s older.

My dislike for both public and private school leads me back to homeschooling every time.

It definitely helps that my husband, who was always in public school, is a staunch supporter of me homeschooling our daughter. He doesn’t want his daughter having the same experiences he had, especially in high school.

The school had said he “passed” classes he never even attended.

A teacher refused to teach him because his 3 older brothers had already been in his class and the teacher decided he was “just like them” as soon as he walked through the classroom door.

Multiple teachers would tell him that the way his parents were raising him was wrong. That their opinions and beliefs were somehow incorrect because they weren’t the same as the teacher’s opinions and beliefs.

The police were nearly called once when a teacher overheard him talking to a friend about his hunting trip the prior weekend. Because, ya know, he was talking about guns and killing.

Between my upbringing and my husband’s hatred for the public school system, our choice to homeschool should be unsurprising.

Factor in these other reasons and I think my choice is obvious:

I can brainwash her

This is easily the number one reason I want to homeschool my daughter.

I don’t know how many times I’ve read people say that parents who homeschool are brainwashing their kids, usually in reference to large, religious families.

NEWSFLASH: Every parent tries to brainwash their kid. Many teachers do it, too.

When religion and conservative beliefs are being taught, parents are considered horrible, brainwashing monsters. How dare they push such backward ways of thinking onto their children?

However, when the tables are turned and a mom teaches her little boy it’s okay for him to “be who he wants” and wear a tutu to school, society doesn’t bat an eye.

When children are raised to believe they need to be open-minded, that they shouldn’t judge a person by the choices they make in their lives (unless those people are conservatives, of course), it’s considered good parenting.

When children are raised to believe that right is right, wrong is wrong and you should hold people to the same moral standard you hold yourself to, people accuse you of raising a bigot.

Every child is being brainwashed by the people who care for them. Whether what they are being taught sticks with them, only time will tell. When raising children, we teach them the morals and values we believe to be best.

We’re simply attempting to mold them into the type of people we hope they will one day be.

With most public school systems and teachers being so left leaning and teaching our children that the liberal way is the right way, I’d rather keep my daughter at home and teach her what I believe to be right.

She’s going to be hit with all that garbage as soon as she steps into the real world, so I’ll keep her “sheltered” from the craziness as long as I can. Hopefully, by the time she does experience it, all my years of brainwashing her will pay off.

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I can choose the curriculum

Obviously, I’m not going to go crazy and teach her random stuff that won’t help her in life. She’ll learn all the things expected of any other kid, but if I homeschool her, I can throw in extra curriculum of my choice and I can also decide when and how she learns various topics.

She can learn about the Jurassic period while her peers are learning European history. I can teach her cursive while her peers are stuck on a computer all day.

Once she reaches high school, I can introduce her to the topic of religion and allow her to explore and learn about any and all religions she finds to be of interest to her. That’s something the public school system will never allow her to do.


We can make our own schedule

This is one thing I really like. We can create a schedule that works best for our family.

Not only that, schooling at home doesn’t take nearly as long as it does at a traditional school.

If we want to take a day off to do something else, it’s no big deal. If we want to go on a 2-week vacation, we can do that, too.

Growing up, I remember being done with all of my school work by lunchtime. I was also able to take longer breaks than my peers and still finish a year’s worth of curriculum on time.

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I want to make sure she really learns

I’m not saying that kids who go to public school don’t learn anything. I know most of them do, but there are exceptions to the rule.

Every child learns differently. What works for one may not necessarily work for another. The public school system isn’t good at dealing with this, though.

Kids are expected to spend all day in a room with 30 other kids and sit there quietly, absorbing all they are being taught. This just doesn’t work for every child and the ones who struggle in this environment are labeled and thrown into special education classes.

If I homeschool Bee, it will allow me the ability to figure out how she best learns new things. It will allow me to use whatever teaching style and tactic is most beneficial for her.

Oh, and I won’t just tell the world she passed a class that she didn’t even take.


Never have to worry about changing schools

Having been homeschooled, I have no experience on this topic. When we moved, we just packed everything up, went to a new town and that was it. I’ve heard rumors that switching schools isn’t much fun, though.

People who went to more schools than there are grades have told me they hated it. Parents dread moving because their kids will have to change schools.

Few people have good things to say about kids switching schools. Luckily for a homeschooled kid, this isn’t an issue.

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She’ll be a kid I don’t hate

I know that most parents don’t hate their kids. There’s just something sad about a parent who is excited for summer break to end and their kids to go back to school.

I think back to that mom I used to know, with the two girls she homeschooled. Those girls were anything but obnoxious and annoying. I never once heard their mother complain about their behavior or how she needed time away from them.


Less screen time

I’ve already written about my love-hate relationship with technology in the past. Sure, I let my daughter watch educational videos from time-to-time. When it really comes down to trying to teach her something, though, I always go the old-fashioned route.

I understand that technology is our future. I’m aware that kids need to be capable of using it if they are to be expected to navigate through life as an adult. However, I also strongly believe it isn’t something they really need to learn fluently during their early elementary years.


We can spend more time together

You always hear people say Enjoy it now. It goes by so fast. This statement couldn’t be truer when you put your child in school.

Just 5 years is all you get before they are off to Kindergarten. Depending on your state, your kid could be in school all day.

Homeschooling my daughter will allow me to continue to enjoy her company for years. I’ll know more about my daughter’s life and day-to-day happenings than most parents know about their children.

I don’t see how that could possibly be a bad thing.

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I can learn, too!

I’d be lying if I told you I remember everything I learned in school. I like to joke that I “threw all that crap out the second I stopped going to college”.

As much as I like to pretend it’s a joke, it really isn’t. Thanks to the internet, I felt little need to continue to store all the things I learned over the last 12 years.

I look forward to not only relearning things that I previously thought were unimportant but also learning new curriculum with my daughter.


Do you homeschool your children? Are you considering homeschooling? What do you think the benefits of homeschooling are?

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